Tuesday I went to the urgent care to get some upgraded allergy meds and refill my asthma inhaler. Remember that. It’s critical.
So I’m sitting on the paper-covered bed, waiting for the doctor, reading crap magazines about skinny rich women when the doctor comes in – he’s about 65 years old, white guy, glasses. (um, yes, oddly stereotypical.) He sits down and we talk for a minute, I tell him why I’m there, etc., and tell him I’m breastfeeding. One thing leads to another and he says “oh, you have three kids.” And I answer affirmative. Then he says “you thinking of having more?” and I say “well not really.”
And then dude says “Have you ever considered tubal ligation?”
I thought this was a little strange, considering I was there for ALLERGIES and he’s not even my doctor and I didn’t ask for his opinion on birth control or pretty much anything regarding my uterus or fallopian tubes… so I answer with a pretty strong “Yeah. I’m not interested in that.”
And this guy says to me, with condescension that you wouldn’t’ believe “Well, since you have three already, I thought something like that might be a good idea.”
COME AGAIN? Are you making comments about the size of my family? Are you REALLY giving me unsolicited advice on what I should and should not do in terms of children…and I’ve known you for how long? Five minutes? No really, who the fuck are you?
But I let it go because I still need this asshole for meds. Or I need to grow a pair. Probably the latter.
THEN, I tell him about the asthma inhaler, explaining that though I have one, it’s expired and a nurse told me last year that asthma steroid meds actually do lose potency after a while, so I should use current ones. And this little number says to me “Yeah, for some reason nurses are really into expiration dates.”
I respond flippantly because I hate him “must be a nursing school prerequisite.”
And he responds “well, there’s a certain type that goes to nursing school. They go because, well, medical school is…” He fades off, but his tone and expression explain in no uncertain terms that the reason they back expiration dates – and the reason they are nurses – is because they are idiots. Or if not idiots, definitely inferior to him. Seconds. Not as bright. Not as good. As those doctors.
I considered asking him whether he was locked in a closet as a small child, causing him to morph into the world-class prick standing before me today, but I didn’t. (See above re: growing a pair.).
I just wanted out of there. You know, some people are just so off I find myself unable to respond at all. It’s like I’m stunned into silence by their overall wrongness and I just want to depart, quickly.
But if I had a pair, I probably would have said something like “Did it ever occur to you that perhaps an individual chose to be a nurse rather than a doctor? Has it ever crossed your mind that perhaps YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES were different than somebody else’s, causing them to do something different than what you did…and that is why he or she is a nurse rather than a doctor? Rather than some inherent superiority, perhaps you just chose differently…and…now stay with me here… because this may shock you… Dr. Jerk-off, maybe not everybody wants to BE YOU [as odd and silly as that may sound], even though they are just as smart and just as capable.”
But as it were, I mumbled something incoherent and spit on his tools on my way out.
Well, no, I didn’t.
But I wanted to.
Because people like that in power positions irritate the hell out of me. They really honestly to the depths of their souls believe they are better than other people…than the rest of us…the underlings…the non-doctors…because what? Because they went to medical school? Or lawyer or vet or PHd school? Because they have some fucking piece of paper saying did something impressive?
You know what’s impressive?
Not being an asshole.