You are the person who thinks it’s “no big deal” that some young men hang banners from the balconies of their frat house with the words: “Freshman daughter drop off,” “Rowdy and Fun. Hope your baby girl is ready for a good time,” and “Go ahead and drop off mom too.”
It’s hard to believe you still exist, in 2015.
I want to rant and rave at you. I want to call you names and insult your intelligence and tell you to fuck right off a thousand ways. You support a culture that views women as objects to be consumed and taken at will.
You support a culture of rape.
And you do it openly. And you say it’s just your “opinion” as if it is that innocuous.
I fucking hate you.
But my hatred does nothing. So instead, I’ll just talk to you.
Let’s break down the messages of these banners. Translate them. Make explicit the implicit.
“Freshman daughter drop off:” The person you have raised and protected and adored as a child needs to be deposited into our hands so we can take over your role as parent and do with her what we will, which is have sex with her. We want to take advantage of her insecurity as a new student and attempt to play on her vulnerability.
You think I’m going too far? I’m not. They call her “daughter.” Ownership. Not even an autonomous human being. Somebody’s daughter. Somebody’s child. “Freshman:” New, young, nervous, unsure.
“Rowdy and fun. Hope your baby girl is ready for a good time.” More direct, same message. Baby girl. Reduced to infantile. Reduced to pure vulnerability. Purity. Perceived virginity. Don’t fucking tell me I’m reading too much into this: WHAT IS A BABY GIRL IF NOT AN INNOCENT VIRGIN?
About to be violated. STILL NOT ADDRESSING THE ACTUAL HUMAN BEING.
Still not addressing THE YOUNG WOMAN IN QUESTION who may or may not want to have sex with a dude or 2 or 6 but that is not the point is it?
They’re writing to the parents. They’re not writing to her. They don’t give a shit about her. Her sexuality is a non-issue. Her desires are irrelevant. Her body is not her own.
SHE IS A NON-ISSUE.
SHE IS IRRELEVANT.
The only people who matter are the parents, the ones who blocked them from getting to her vagina.
“Go ahead and drop off mom too:” Hell, we don’t care. We’ll fuck any warm body. Even if she’s old and gross, because we all know that’s what older women are.
We’ll fuck your baby girl and your wife. Two objects you own that we want.
These messages reduce women to bodies to be passed off between men: dads and husbands to frat boys.
These messages reduce women to THINGS to be TRADED between men.
Do I think these boys are posting these messages with full awareness of the what they’re saying? Maybe. Put probably not. They’re probably too fucking dumb for that. THEY ARE ABSORBING THE CULTURE AROUND THEM. THEY ARE ABSORBING THE CULTURE YOU ARE SUPPORTING EVERY TIME YOU SAY
You’re overly sensitive.
These are just boys being boys.
Young college boys are horny.
They’re just having fun.
Meanwhile, girls are raped.
Meanwhile, boys are growing up thinking this is what being a man means.
Meanwhile, our sons are reduced to douchebag morons with penises that blur humanity.
Meanwhile, our daughters are reduced to available or unavailable vaginas.
Meanwhile, our daughters are on the ground with a boot on their neck, choking under the power of a patriarchy that protects or consumes them, but never lets them breathe.
We buy a onesie that says “Daddy’s little princess.”
We buy a onesie that says “Lock your daughters up.”
We buy heels for our 3-year-old. She can’t run at the park anymore.
We put her in skirts and tell her to close her legs. They’ll see your panties!
Somebody’s older brother touched her. “Boys will be boys. He’s just exploring.”
She says nothing the 2nd time. The third the fourth the fifth.
We tell her to adhere to dress codes. Don’t show too much leg. That belly. Shame!
We tell her to buy some pepper spray.
We tell her not to get drunk.
Boys will be boys you know they are just having fun they can’t help themselves the power of their dicks is just too much LOOK AT THOSE PROMISING FOOTBALL CAREERS.
You want sex? No don’t have sex you’ll be a slut and nobody likes a slut be clean be good be respectable you can do anything YOU ARE DADDY’S LITTLE PRINCESS.
“Drop your baby girl off here.”
We’ve got it. We’ll take care of you now, little princess.
She shouldn’t have done that keg stand.
She shouldn’t have worn that skirt.
She shouldn’t have gone upstairs.
She shouldn’t have walked alone.
She shouldn’t have driven.
She shouldn’t have been born.
It’s no big deal.
You’re being too sensitive.
He was just horny.
He was just having fun.
Welcome to college, princess. Welcome to the world.
Ah shit, drop her mom off too.