Everybody’s always trying to figure out how to do it right.
What’s “best” for my children? What can I do to raise the healthiest, most well-adjusted kids possible?
How can I do it “right?”
Well I think we should reframe this whole discussion into a simple recognition that we’re doing it all wrong.
Everything we do, it’s wrong.
Every decision is the wrong decision. And I have proof. Check this out.
If you have a hospital birth you run the risk of being bullied and manipulated by misogynistic OB/GYNs determined to cut you.
But if you have a homebirth, you’ll probably kill your baby.
So there’s that.
And then, once the kid comes out, you will fail. If you circumcise your boy you’ve engaged in genital mutilation and will have most likely set off a disturbing chain of events in the child’s psyche, possibly resulting in a fascination with burning puppies.
But if you don’t, your kid’s gonna get HIV. And you’re a dirty ass hippie.
If you vaccinate, your kid will probably get autism. If you don’t vaccinate you’re a leach sucking the life out of society and bringing back preventable diseases.
So basically, killing all the people.
Breastfeeding? You’re tied to your kid and undoing years of feminist work. Also you’re ruining your tits and will never be hot again.
Not breastfeeding? Wow. Really nice of you to give your kid brain damage, ADHD and a propensity toward obesity.
Cosleeping? Your children are overly-dependent and will not leave your bed until they’re 19 (if they’re lucky enough to even live that long, since you’ll most likely SMOTHER THEM before that). Also your sex life will die and you’ll never sleep again.
Putting baby in a crib? Hello, attachment issues. Babies need their parents, not a CAGE! If you want to stick something in a cage why don’t you get a rabbit? Also you’ll never sleep again.
Working out of the home? Your children are suffering from your absence. They need a MOTHER, not more MONEY. Teen pregnancy and drug use a sure future.
Stay-at-home mom? Well since you don’t work you can’t afford the character-building activities that turn your children into well-rounded individuals. Teen pregnancy and drug use a sure future.
Involved in everything your kids do? Helicopter parenting. You’re creating entitled lazy asses.
Involved in nothing? Hands-off parenting. Why did you even have kids? Kids need parental involvement to succeed. Studies have proven it.
Private school? Your kids are receiving a skewed version of reality wherein everybody’s wealthy and hyper-educated. Learn nothing of the real world.
Public school? Learn too much of the real world. Pushed into non-thinking followers of society. Worker-bees. Nothing ruins a kid like public school.
Well except maybe homeschool.
Homeschool creates social derelicts. Everybody knows that.
Let your kids play with guns, raise serial killers.
Don’t let your kids play with guns? No worries, they’ll chew their pretzel into one.
Barbies? Your daughter requests breast implants at age 13.
No Barbies? Your daughter becomes so obsessed with Barbies she ends up jacking one from Walmart and you get taken by CPS for raising a little hoodlum.
Have TV in your home? Brainwash your kids.
No TV? Raise out-of-touch weirdos. Go fucking nuts because you can’t get a break, which increases irritability and thus yelling, which we all know ruins children.
Speaking of yelling, do you fight with your partner in front of your kids? Well, that sucks. Way to create an unstable, unsafe home environment.
Don’t ever fight with your partner in front of the kids? Nice. Now they have NO EXAMPLE of conflict resolution and will never communicate well.
We could go on like this all day.
Always vacation with your kids? If you don’t vacation alone with your spouse your marriage is going to fizzle out and die, ending in divorce.
Vacation without your kids? How are they ever going to see the world? You’re a self-centered asshole.
Stay in the same house for 20 years? Raise sheltered children afraid of the world.
Move? Without stability, your children will seek shelter and grow afraid of the world.
And so…what’s the moral of this story?
What does it mean that we’re going everything wrong?
Well, lest my brain deceive me, I’ll be damned if it doesn’t mean we’re doing everything RIGHT.
It’s simple logic: if everything is wrong, then nothing could possibly be right, which then makes everything neither right nor wrong, but rather the same. Equal.
Cost, benefit. Advantage, disadvantage. Right, wrong. Yin and yang and shit.
Playing field, LEVELED.
So sit back and enjoy your failure.
Since there’s no other option, we might as well embrace it, have fun, and raise some fucking well-adjusted children…you know, by doing everything, WRONG.
Just like we’ve been doing since the beginning of time.